Why I support Repeal the 8th

IMG_4156I have never been quiet about my own personal feelings on controversial issues, but I have also never been overtly forward on pushing them either. That all changed for me during the Same-Sex-Marriage campaign of 2015. I don’t know whether I’m older, or grumpier, or just tired of everyone thinking they have a say on how other people live their lives; but whatever it is, I’m not staying quiet any longer. I appreciate this issue is very divisive. Its personal, emotive and very raw for many people, but it has to be addressed. And until it is I will be posting different topics, explainers and reasons why I support Repealing the 8th Amendment.

I posted a picture of me wearing a ‘Repeal’ jumper in support of the campaign on my Facebook and I offered to speak with anyone who had any questions or queries on the issue in a confidential and non-judgemental way. I say, and mean, non-judgemental, because if I start to judge… well the irony of asking people to stop judging, while judging myself is not lost on me. This is a complex issue with a lot of angles and I accept that we all see those angles through our own lens. However, I did get contacted by a number of my connections with specific questions and I am going to keep track of these and try and answer them here as best I can.

Like most Irish women I grew up just accepting that a woman couldn’t get an abortion in Ireland, and that ‘shady’ women would have to travel to England because they got themselves into trouble. When I started college I met some ‘shady’ women, and realised quickly that they were not all that different to me. I also learnt that contrary to all my philosophical beliefs, pregnancy is impossible on your own. Any woman in trouble is part of a pair, but only one of the pair will pay for the ‘mistake’.

This was still all philosophical until 2012 when the death of Savita Halappanavar inflamed the debate. Savita’s tragic death highlighted just how dangerous the 8th Amendment was. The 8th Amendment was not just preventing the ‘shady women’ from getting an abortion, it was letting a woman die rather than help her. Doctors chose to let a nice, married lady, with a wanted pregnancy to die, needlessly, rather than face the consequences of the 8th Amendment. Savita was a game-changer for many of us, myself included.

I will add that I am not a spokesperson for the campaign, I’m not a law person or a medical person, anything I write is merely my own thoughts and feelings on the issues. Abortion has affected many women in my life, and statistically you’re codding yourself if you think you’ve been unaffected. If you have sisters, nieces, daughters, even mothers and grandmothers, then you likely know someone who has been touched by abortion. This conversation needs to happen and this is my small way of contributing.


Guaranteed Irish-Ish and other tales


The Ronseal Chap

When I was little, there was an advertisement on the TV for a Ronseal product. As the gentleman explained what the product was for, he concluded with his, now famous, punchline: ‘Ronseal; It does exactly what it says on the tin’.

As a child, while I was impressed by his punchy delivery and cavalier attitude to varnishing his fence, I also thought the ad was pointless. You see, in my little, naive head, everything did exactly what it said on its proverbial tin, I mean, why else would it actually say it on the tin? As a child we assume everything we hear is the truth. We also assume, courtesy of many a TV courtroom drama, that its the truth, the whole truth and nothing but the truth. How wrong was I…

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Young people: You’re doing them wrong

Morpheus has a pointSo I have had the absolute pleasure of working with young adults for the last ten years, and before I continue, could I first start by vehemently pointing out that the following is merely my opinion, and I don’t claim to ‘represent’, or as the case may be, ‘misrepresent’, young people and their issues in any way, shape or form. The following is just my own thoughts. Continue reading

Mammy Europe

I never learnt anything about Europe in school and I have to say I wasn’t particularly interested in finding out anything for myself. Like most of my peers, Europe to me is a sort of ‘castle in the clouds’ type concept, people tell me its there but I’ve never been entirely sure how its impacted on my life. That all changed for me recently.Image

In February I was invited to take part in a delegation brought to Europe by Women for Election and the European Commission, needless to say I got a somewhat rude awakening, in the nicest possible manner.

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Tattoo 4: Leg A.K.A Philomena the Phoenix

Free hand drawing

Free hand drawing

So I had gone through a small hiatus of tattoo-getting for a variety of reasons, busy, skint, undecided etc. But like all addicted inkers, I was consistently on the look out for ideas and Summer 2012 it struck. I came across a tribal bird that I fell in love with. The one I found was on someones back which, while lovely for them, personally I’d designated not so much a ‘no-go’ area, but more a ‘not-yet’ area. Continue reading